Sunday, December 12, 2010

How I Feel Affects Other People...

The only thing I really worry about is the fact that it seems
like God sometimes takes you away once you "get it"
and understand what life is all about.

When I think like that, what makes me anxious is
whether or not my pace is good enough for me
to leave the message he wants me to deliver.

Then I have to remember that I don't know the message's depth... am only responsible for delivering a small portion...
or may have delivered it already and am on overtime.

Your message will be delivered.

What is one of the messages you'd like to deliver?
One of mine is
Merry Christmas!

Wednesday, December 1, 2010

How I Feel Affects Other People...

A young couple moves into a new neighborhood.

The next morning, while they are eating breakfast, the young woman sees the neighbor hang up the wash outside. "That laundry is not very clean", she said. "She doesn't know how to wash correctly. Perhaps she needs another laundry soap."

The husband looked on, but remained silent. Every time her neighbor would hang out the wash, the woman would make the same comment. About one month later, the woman was surprised to see a nice clean wash on the line and said to her husband, "Look! she has learned how to wash correctly. I wonder who taught her this?"

Her husband said, "I got up early this morning and washed the windows."

And so it is with life: What we see while watching others, depends on the purity of the window which we look through.

- author unknown (clearly)

Wednesday, November 24, 2010

How I Feel Affects Other People...

One Obnoxious Parrot

A young man named John received a parrot as a gift. The parrot had a bad attitude and an even worse vocabulary. Every word out of the bird's mouth was rude, obnoxious and laced with profanity. John tried and tried to change the bird's attitude by consistently saying only polite words, playing soft music and anything else he could think of to "clean up" the bird's vocabulary.

Finally, John was fed up and he yelled at the parrot. The parrot yelled back. John shook the parrot and the parrot got angrier and even ruder. In desperation, John threw up his hands, grabbed the bird and put him in the freezer.

For a few minutes the parrot squawked and kicked and screamed. Then suddenly there was total quiet. Not a peep was heard for over a minute. Fearing that he'd hurt the parrot, John quickly opened the door to the freezer.

The parrot calmly stepped out onto John's outstretched arms and said: "I believe I may have offended you with my rude language and actions. I'm sincerely remorseful for my inappropriate transgressions and I fully intend to do everything I can to correct my rude and unforgivable behavior."

John was stunned at the change in the bird's attitude. As he was about to ask the parrot what had made such a dramatic change in his behavior, when the bird continued. . . "May I ask what the turkey did?"


Tuesday, November 23, 2010

How I Feel Affects Other People...


You won’t recognize the angel
His language will be too frank
When you really get God’s help
You won’t know who you should thank.

So make your decision to give thanks now
Keep Him worthy of your praise
Don’t try to figure out His motives
For ours are not His ways.

Have you wondered how you sounded
asking for, while wasting life?
Or have you simply taken for granted
that you can do as you please
and not suffer consequence…
until you get tired and decide to
seek His help by reflex…
call out His name by habit…
question your penance?

Have you lost your place on the Implementation Crew,
forgetting that only He is on the Planning Committee,
and blinded yourself with jealously and selfishness?

Oh, my brethren, I beg that you do not surround yourself
with the worldly misgivings and short comings
that hoist you atop a throne that can no longer touch the hearts
that call for your guidance.

See, you won’t recognize the Angel
Nor His concern for your health.
When you really want God’s help
Let that Angel be yourself

© 2000 Sporty King

Inspired by the movie “The Preacher’s Wife”

How I Feel Affects Other People...

Relocation can be a different mindset according to your age and stage in life. There are different goals and concerns. When I was younger and on the corporate track, I was more focused on getting involved with as much as possible in the community, etc.  Part of the fascination was due to wanting to get the company name good representation and reputation… wanting to know where to go and hang out… trying to blend in.

Now I find myself watching how others interact with one another… happy to stay home and to myself… knowing that that will shine best for my reputation.

As you move forward in your life, realize that you are 'relocating' on a daily basis. Embrace the mindsets of awareness as you look over your past, and appreciate the road you have paved for those who benefitted from your guidance. You may not know who they are.

Monday, November 1, 2010

How I Feel Affects Other People...

It's important that you don't use 'last minute' programming for teens. It makes it seem like they're an after thought, and in the process that's where you lose control of handling them... and decrease their inherent respect for you... because they see that you're not prepared for their reactions.

I recommend that you not use anything you haven't reviewed AND enjoyed. Otherwise you put yourself in the vulnerable position of experiencing the work, instead of sharing it.

When you make children an after thought, you'll end up thinking, "What was I thinking?" after what you thought...

~ Morning... Noon... & Night...

Please share your experiences with youth programming.

Saturday, October 23, 2010

How I Feel Affects Other People...

I know it’s a hard pill to swallow, but part of being a teenager is living the process of wanting to be accepted while trying to be independent. It’s what they’ve been taught by the same generation trying to stop them….

Many children grow up living their parents’ maniacy of Keeping up with the Joneses.  As the adults have tried to make sure their babies weren’t out-dressed or equally-dressed, they shifted that competitive mindset to children who quickly learned that they could get what they wanted by noticing, “[Sporty] has one.”

As adults we need to realize, recognize and find comfort in knowing that we only have to reach one child a day. And reload, knowing you'll have to reach THAT child again...

Friday, October 15, 2010

How I Feel Affects Other People...

One of my young sisters posted on Facebook, ‎"The emotional, sexual, and psychological stereotyping of females begins when the doctor says, 'It's a girl."------Shirley Chisholm

Because you may not see my response to her post, here it is:

And then there's the Good News! I heard Haki Madabuti talking on Baisden show yesterday saying that (while discussing the movie documentary "Waiting for Superman") girls mature faster than boys because they are read to by parents, 10 times more hours by the time they start school.

Perhaps the stereotype is breeding leaders.

When you embrace the negativity, you enhance it. Shirley didn't get where she got by feeling inferior. Why send it back to justify failure?

GIRLS - Gifted Individuals Replicating the Lord's Strength! '-)

Monday, October 11, 2010

How I Feel Affects Other People...

While you’re pushing this generation away and “not knowing what to do with them,” by disapproving of their dress, style, piercing, tattoos, language, following the crowd… advertisers are trying to reach ‘These Kids of Today.’

Radio commercials are being created with ethnic dialect that glorifies poor grammar. I heard a commercial that stated, “… I seen my friend, and asked her….”  Personalities read scripts written by advertisers with the expressions ‘dog,’ ‘represent,’ ‘OMG….’

Billboards and TV ads have text messages and slang jingles with popular Rappers. Sponsors bankroll the non-traditional athletes with heightened sexual innuendo. Videos showcase sex, liquor and products that have absolutely nothing to do with the song. Reality TV encourages competitive disrespect of everyone....

Don’t misread this message. I’m not knocking or criticizing the advertisers, mediums or personalities. They know and acknowledge how powerful our children are. I’m asking whether or not you’re one of the voices sending them to find love where they’re accepted… then wondering aloud if they’ve lost their minds?

Saturday, October 9, 2010

How I Feel Affects Other People...

Little Obstacles Strengthen Spirits

When my mother died I thought about certain meals I wouldn't get again. No, not immediately... but I mention this to make the point that we all take our loved ones for granted, believing they'll be there at all times. All the time knowing that they may not.

When I resolved to face my mourning and instead of blocking out the fact that she was gone, I embraced it. I took on the challenge of replicating my favorite meals. In the process, no way did they come out "just like mom used to make." But they brought her back to me as I ceremoniously seasoned and prepared the foods that she instinctively threw together. Cooking is now one of the many traditions I use to be at peace in my mother's spirit.

When I watched her take her last breath it was the biggest feeling of emptiness and powerlessness I will ever experience. Living on for her has made me stronger, on this my walk toward spiritual growth.

Thursday, October 7, 2010

How I Feel Affects Other People...

Self Imposed Limitations Lie to You

Take a moment, sit down,
and think about some of the things you once told yourself you couldn't (or wouldn't dare) do.
As you add up the number of hurdles
that you ended up eclipsing,
laugh at the SILLY reason you used
to keep yourself back.
Self Imposed Limitations Lie to You

© 2001 Starting Today...

Wednesday, October 6, 2010

How I Feel Affects Other People...

If we see everything as Right or Wrong we sometimes push children away and cause insecure Peer pressure. Of course there’s the other PEER pressure

Parents Experiencing Excellence in Retrospect

"You know you're 13 now, you should know better."

Ever say that to a child? More importantly, have you ever asked yourself "why" they should know "what" at "which" age? And "when" did you really learn the lessons you know today, in your life and business?

Neither actually comes with a rule book, does it....

Your success must mature according to who you are. We all learn at a different pace.

© 2001 Starting Today...

Yes, it's tough being a parent, but give your child room to grow. Set clear boundaries that will evolve to wise choices and guidelines. Remember to use the Parent Handbook. It's 40 pages... all blank! Give yourself credit for doing the best you can. You are a good parent.
ps - flip the Handbook over and read it in the other direction to get the Child Rules...

Tuesday, October 5, 2010

How I Feel Affects Other People...

Meanwhile, on the job… this is no time to BLAME co-workers and supervisors. We spend so much time trying to catch someone doing something wrong... why not catch people doing something right? Once you do, you encourage people to repeat the action toward getting the victory for all.

Basically Lying And Making Excuses

Realize that if you say I did something... I say I didn't do... one of us is lying. When the truth comes out, that person has to make excuses about why they lied. In the interim we've lost valuable time. If the mistake occurred at Station 3, we can't keep waiting for it to get to Station 6 to show up. Speak up if you've made a mistake. It may be a signal that the training or orientation process needs to be reviewed.

There are no perfect companies. Errors are made. If you've established that you are a valuable person, you'll be able to have the mindset of getting credit for the mishap that might put the system back on track toward success....

Monday, October 4, 2010

How I Feel Affects Other People...


Oh, there were plenty of other people in the room to talk to
And plenty of things to look at,
But your eyes held my attention.
Well, not the whole time. . .

There were times where you looked away
And I thought about nibbling your toes
Or fingertips or neck to get your attention. . .

Sure, I even considered picking you up.
But I noticed you weren't wearing any underwear.
And I knew you were oblivious to the breeze that kept blowing,
So I thought it best to join everybody else in the waiting game
Of when someone would change your diaper.

© 1994 Sporty King
Yes, it's a baby on a table. So often it is our perception that promotes or degrades the way we look at life. So as the media headlines continue to challenge and broadcast gloom, what we really have to broadcast is the fact that this isn’t the first depression… it isn’t the first recession… It’s the next tough time. And we’ve gotten through though times before. Each of us has.

Well, the perception right now is that we’re stuck. That we’re living in economic quicksand. Let’s change our perspective, and talk about ‘learning’ in economic quicksand.

This week I'll share the acronyms I use to having a conversation with my audience about dealing with today's gift of life. Yes, that still overshadows the trials & tribulations. Focus on getting your testimony, and you'll learn the steps you can take to stay positive through laughter and introspection.

As you enjoy reading, consider how life changing this seminar could be with me touching on specific points that impact your audience of teens, parents, educators, conference attendees and people who breathe... '-)

Friday, October 1, 2010

How I Feel Affects Other People...


Say that with me… [Thy Will Be Done]
That’s wasn’t too hard, was it?
Now try believing it.

I remember being down on my knees muttering those four words
And thinking that after the Kingdom arrived
All God’s plans would be fulfilled
(I remember thinking that)
Now I know it!

And what I know is that the Kingdom has arrived.
And the mysterious ways
many have considered a part of God’s handiwork
are nothing more than the countless blessings
in his crystal clear plans
that we are just not aware of.

So this new road we take to healing begins
With our latest testimony of appreciation for life.
A testimony that will last at least until we get out this door
and back to cursing drivers who cut us off…
Rolling our eyes at a teenage outfit…
or blaming a small tree for a forest fire.
A testimony borne from tragedy that questions “Thy’s” W.I.L.L.
(What Is the Lord’s Lesson?)
How will I get through this one?
When will you lift this burden?
Where will I go from here?
Why me???

And his answer will be, “Are you done yet…”
(You see D.O.N.E. is Delivering my Omnipotent News Everyday)
“... or do you profess faith only in convenient retrospect?
I scheduled this day for you because JOB is no longer available.
I scheduled this day because I love you
And this new level is not made to have you question me…
But to help you understand me
Understand that what I want is for you to love me
and live by me everyday.
How? Anger is controllable,
and will only blind you from the blessing I woke you up with today.
When? This pain is temporary,
yet temporary can last a long time.
Where? Loss is necessary and always precedes growth.
Why? Understand that even if you don’t, I’ll always love you.

I’m DONE.”

© 2005 Sporty King

Tuesday, September 28, 2010

How I Feel Affects Other People...

Sometimes I write something, and am “zoomingly” not thinking about its impact. Here’s a variation of one I've written to friends celebrating their birthdate. A friend particularly liked it and told me so. Thus I post it here for your reminder.

First, “birthdate” is the term handed down through my mother, who said we only have one birthday, and it is celebrated annually with a 1-in-7 chance of being on the actual same day of the week you were born. Want to guess what the odds are of it being the same year?

You did an excellent job of handling the last 365 days that God gave you. He has decided to renew your life for ONE day. Enjoy each and every moment.”

Happy Birthdate to you!


Tuesday, September 21, 2010

How I Feel Affects Other People...

I help people define personal success.
Having a smile of confidence and internal peace is a big key.
Your smile disarms people and helps you see into their spirit.
That doesn’t mean they’ve got a good spirit.
Don’t presuppose
or you’ll never accept people for who they are.

Tuesday, September 14, 2010

How I Feel Affects Other People...

Here's what I wrote to a friend who is concerned for his sons being the only child of their ethnic background in their class... on their block... on their team....

Our children and their generation are moving more toward a multicultural existence. We hinder them from progress by keeping them believing in statistics from the past. Are we really "learning" from the past with our own flashbacks?

Children are in class with taller, fatter, smarter, cleaner, glasses wearing, deformities and children who look just like them but don't want to associate with them....

Keep giving your sons the love and direction at home, so they can lead their classmates to better understanding. Remember, Jesus was not accepted when he burst onto the scene. We get to choose the parts of the Bible we'll govern our lives by (do we?), so I lead you to Matthew 10:16-20, and try Acts 5:41... before putting a twist on what could ring a bell in Acts 7:6-7.

They're YOUR sons. Make them ready. Coach them for the long run.


Monday, September 13, 2010

How I Feel Affects Other People...

God doesn’t switch teams. You’re just in between quarters sometimes, and will have to get used to the new direction.

Some people talk about getting “mad” with God, and wondering if he’s abandoned them (hey, even Jesus asked that one). Not surprising, this questioning comes at times in our lives where we are called to make a decision about or deal with the unfamiliar.

And it’s at times like these where our spiritual connection is challenged, wondering which book in the Bible we read that had a great story from start to finish? Most of the books repeat the Victorious Cycle of challenge-faith-patience-testimony...

Get used to it.


Sunday, September 12, 2010

How I Feel Affects Other People...

Get your rest and reset your pace. I sit out on my patio and read my Bible each morning this month. I switch the room where I read every few weeks. Keep the Word in all the corners.

GOD is wonderfully hilarious
When you really understand Life
you can see how he is GOLD


Saturday, September 11, 2010

How I Feel Affects Other People...

Most of the time kids think they can’t measure up to our standards, and they’re right… as long as they think that way.

When they show that they can, we should reach harder to erase any doubt… and they’ll believe.

Have you done anything to instill that sense in any of your children lately? I’ve asked my nieces that they COMMIT to getting good grades, rather that working hard.


Friday, September 10, 2010

How I Feel Affects Other People...

You'll be alright... you already are. Just can't focus on the pain. It's part of the operation. Focus on what you have to do to heal, and be willing to go through that pain to get there.

Are you in your life for the long run?

Wednesday, September 8, 2010

How I Feel Affects Other People

Reject” implies the power of choice has been taken out of your hands. The Bible excerpts, “A man who findith a wife, findith a good thing.” Ladies, accept that you are the catch, and make your choice.

The opening statement in my book, Do You Have Any Idea… How Fine You Are?, reads as follows:

Mothers, daughters, sisters, aunts, friends... you are the object of countless secret admirers, and worthy of that praise. This title poem should remind you of the awe in which you are held. Enjoy the complimentary looks and comments given in good taste. Your "thank you" will not always be hounded by wolverines. But your smile will always be appreciated.

And, what I encourage you to do is reread the last stanza. For that is the key. Inner beauty is the essence of outer beauty. Life is about passion. Be passionate about someone or something... and let it be known.

We must all realize that we are always on display. Somebody is checking you out, don't fool yourself. Instead, feel good about yourself and let it show…

Read the title poem at my website

Thursday, September 2, 2010

How I Feel Affects Other People

These kids of today” … are KIDS, today.

I don’t treat them like grownups. I model how to be one. And several of them who have been around since my generation has been using this terminology on them, are now my friends on Facebook. They call me mentor, friend, teacher, role model… on the phone. I value each and every one of them, look forward to hearing from them, and check up on them when I don’t.

They are in high school, college, jobs and careers. And in my heart, and with all due respect, they are still my kids!

I love my K.I.D.S.
Knowledgeable Individuals Developing Strengths…

Monday, August 30, 2010

... How I Feel Affects Other People.

Leaving is easy for me.
Not because I don’t care, but because I do.
My spirit is free and freely used to foster God’s will.
Remember, God doesn’t ask if we think
we’ll like his next move with us.
He just tells us what it is. I hear him clearly,
so don’t get attached to my life (meaning where I am).

It’s part of what I speak about.

Where are you in His will?

Friday, August 27, 2010

... How I Feel Affects Other People.

Today begins my Golden Year:
55 Born in ’55

Enjoying life is pretty much my favorite pastime.
I don’t spend time denying or hiding my age
because I’ve worked hard to get here.
And I can’t think of giving a single day back.
Changing the circumstances of any past day
takes away from your legacy.

So I celebrate with my favorite food: edible…
my favorite drink: liquid…
my favorite beer: cold…
my favorite day: TO…
and my favorite night: TO.

And I celebrate with your eyes, smiles and spirit.

Wednesday, August 25, 2010

How I Feel Affects Other People!

Being resourceful has not hindered me, but made me look forward to backing up to the wall. It has strengthened me to know that there is a wall and that I can keep fighting without worrying about being pushed off a cliff. Turning around to look for the cliff creates fear through expressing a time limit and boundary. I have time and guidelines to live for.

People ‘say’ you have no guarantee of tomorrow, yet constantly build upon today for tomorrow. I don’t ‘build’ upon today. I ‘use up’ today or take it to its highest height. When I fall it will be such a long flight to the bottom I’ll have time to learn to fly.

I guess that’s what being an angel is all about.

Tuesday, August 24, 2010

You Are GOOD

When we don't take the time to express how good we are, we sometimes lose the opportunity to be as good as we are. ~Sporty King


Sometimes I wish I were lucky
Instead of just so . . . good.
If I could just be lucky
I might share my luck
No (in fact) I know I would.

Some people say that I'm lucky
I correct and remind them that I'm blessed
I'm spiritual, fortunate, in tune with myself
Nothing outweighs my thirst for happiness

You see luck, itself, doesn't last
It supplies a glimmer of hope or chance
Luck forces you to take risks
Being blessed allows you to take a stand

Luck can give you that "On top of the world" feeling
That instant fix of elation
Being fortunate keeps you "on top of the world"
And allows you to enjoy the sensation.

Spirituality is such a popular thing now
But it means much more than meets the eye
If you get lucky enough to get spiritual
Hold on, don't let that spirit die

If you get lucky enough to find yourself
Enjoy the challenge of introspection
Realize its value toward your growth

Understand that you're supposed to have success
Your purpose is ordained
You must choose to lead a prosperous life
You must make sunshine out of rain

But, I must admit
Sometimes I wish I were lucky
Instead of just so . . . good
But would I stand out from the rest?

If you're lucky
you can be in good company
If you're blessed you can be with the best

© 1990 Sporty King

Monday, August 23, 2010

... How I Feel Affects Other People.

Are you focusing on the Bottom Line?
Wondering why he didn’t finish this… or how she couldn’t do that…
or what will happen if we can’t because they won’t since most people don’t…?
Or have you figured out that you can’t get to the Bottom Line…
until you deal with the Top Line:

How I feel affects other people…
how other people feel affects my business….

Blogging with Sporty King, The Master of Listening
Reminds you what The Top Line Is…

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about how you feel about how you affect other people.

Saturday, August 21, 2010

I Love My Family

Last weekend I was given the blessing of sharing in the lives of generations of some of the most precious people in my life: my family. I only say “some” because there were ‘two’ I didn’t get to see.

As I rolled into New York City on Friday evening my sister, Zytiin called to check my arrival time. I was where I could meet her to go food shopping and carry stuff so she could avoid aggravating recent surgery. One of her dearest friends, Nancy was in town from Florida. We laughed until we fell asleep.

Saturday morning we went to see our sister-in-law, Monica participate as the youngest in her ‘seasoned’ citizens’ synchronized swimming showcase. One of my adopted nieces, Jessica (16) accompanied us, as well as Nancy’s son, Isaiah (18). Monica’s daughters (my nieces), Trishon and Qianna joined us, with my great nieces, Mineu (7) and N’More (2) … and great nephew, Skyler (9). From there I, Zyt and her friend Carol went to Morningside Park for my brother Travis’ annual cookout. Besides all of his boys, who are my adopted younger brothers… I hung out with my younger brothers Vaughn and Hassan. My elder cousin Kenny was there with his daughter Kendra (12). My nieces Nachez (17) and Breanna (16) brought smiles to my face, as did nephew Travis (1), who calmly shrugs his shoulders when you tell him to show “I don’t know.”

Nephew Tyvon, niece Viilorii, great nephews Nathaneal and Caleb showed up that afternoon, my cousins Todd and Rhonda showed up later that evening, and I got to meet 4 nieces I’d never met before.

Sunday we were at another location celebrating our memorial tribute to the greatest woman to ever live, my mother Mary Louise King… whom we called Leah. Added to my list was my cousin Robin, and over 100 “chosen family members” joined us as we cooked, danced, played chess, youth games and laughed the day away in the spirit Leah instilled in all of us. I gave a heartfelt tribute to Leah toward the end and everyone, from her friends down to youngest who remembered her, cheered.

Monday morning my brother Vaughn joined me as we spent introspective moments at the cemetery. When I got back to the City it was time to take Nancy to the airport, and pick up my niece Nachez for our dinner date. Taking my nieces on individual dates is a tradition we began 4 years ago before my mother died. She is off to college next week, after she turns 18 on August 23.

Tuesday evening it was time to meet my youngest sister, Usheevii for dinner. We were celebrating low/no budget lifestyles, so happily took the invitation to meet at my niece Viilorii’s apartment. Her brother, Tyvon met us there, as did my sister Zyt. I drove back to Charlotte on Wednesday, thankful for my family. I look forward to my next trip where I’ll be sure to see niece Naya (13) and great niece Gabrielle (13), who both left me messages about missing me that weekend.

Count the generations you still have in your family, and make each moment with them count.

Passing Thought

When people have weak leadership they become used to it, and have a hard time ascending to better. In some ways it's like not wanting to trust your feelings after dating a knucklehead... the next person gets the brunt of doubt. ~Sporty King

Sunday, August 15, 2010

Satin's POWER

Satin’s P.O.W.E.R.

          Pitiful, Perished and in the Past
          Outdated, Over and Off
          Weak, Worried and Weary
          Erased, Eliminated and
won’t Return

Yet before we can digest what his power is… we have to understand what it was:

Pretty, Pimpish, Patient, Plenty, Processed, Planned and Prospered as you let it
Outstanding, Overbearing and Outside of where you needed to be
Well (understood) the Word (to misinterpret it), about Worry, free Will and Worthless treasure as it Worked against you (While seemingly for you)
Effective, Exciting and screaming toward the Easy way out, so it could
Rob (you of your inheritance. Oh yes, it was) Real

Fortunately, our focus is better used on God’s POWER. Your focus here will help you laugh and appreciate why your spirit is sought after by the unseen. Your belief in yourself brings a smile to your face that requires no explanation, as you take another step toward your destiny. And when you think about things like the Biblical story of JOB, you realize that Satin had to ask for permission to attack. And his permission came with guidelines… even when he asked for an extension.

Why would you give power over your life to someone who has no power over your life? The devil is not getting in your way. He’s doing what God has allowed him to do… to show him that when you do what God has asked you to do, your power is second only to God’s. In other words it’s:

Plentiful, Patient, Present, Possible, Positive, Pure and activated by Prayer
Omnipotent, Overflowing, Order, Open, One and On duty every step of the way
Worthy, Wonderful, Worship, Wisdom, With Windows (of opportunity), and We always Win
Enjoyable, Effortless, Elastic, Emancipating and Everyone has a right to Experience it
Rewarding, Right, Reigns and Repeats its glory

I don’t explain God. I experience God. ~Sporty King
© 2008

Friday, August 13, 2010

A God Day

God doesn’t get a day off. So as you strive to live God-like, rejoice at the demands on your time. ~Sporty King

© 2009

I’m having a good day. I’ve been able to update my website with products. That’s where I'm focusing more, because I've got enough stuff to have a section in the Successories store. But a lot of things I started and didn't continue if they didn't sell fast enough… couldn't hold stock. That's also why I've picked up my pace on Blogging, Facebook and Twitter. Please go check out my progress, and see if there’s an inspirational product with your credit card (I mean, name) on it. :-)

Not that concerned with learning about Charlotte. I chose it because I liked it 27 years ago. It's not a matter of it 'maybe' working out. This is where I want to be right now, and it will work. Goal is not to speak locally as much as travel and have a place to come home and sleep. I'm looking to be more international. Thus a lot of what I'm doing is also putting systems into place so that I can hire a staff or at least a rep.

Will also be checking into some Toastmaster clubs over the next couple of weeks. I visited one in April when I was here getting my apartment. Might go there again, plus got invited to a new club. I like the new clubs because they keep me in a training mode, as well as close to knowing what audiences need.

I got my license plate last week, so I'm one step away from full Southerner... have to wait for registration to come in the mail. I already have my library card and have registered to vote. Not sure if I'm gonna put in an application to get my Southern Accent. I've enjoyed my Nu Yawk accent for too long. ;-)

What are you focusing your energy on… and how is your day going?

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

Give Your Word

Don’t give your word if you WON’T keep it… we know you CAN. ~Sporty King

© July 2010

During my first week in Charlotte I made a new turn (I don’t make wrong turns) and ended up somewhere I wasn’t planning to go. The woman on the intercom understood that I needed directions, so she invited me in to get a visual of where I needed to go. We struck up a wonderful conversation of blessings, right and left turns (still no ‘wrong’) as she welcomed me to Charlotte. She invited me to the church where her son pastored, and I said I’d visit within the month.

I visited 2 weeks later, and when she saw me she was puzzled as to where we had met. Upon my telling her that she has invited me, and about our conversation… she said, “You came! You kept your word. Most people don’t keep their word.” I gladly responded, “Then they shouldn’t have given their word.”

My word is very important to me. At the other end of it is my reputation. It has been several years now, but I’ve grown to the point where I don’t do ANYTHING I don’t want to do. I sit on that fine line people call “Brutally Honest” or “Refreshingly Frank.” Why think every moment could be your last, when you can know it… and believe in not having told a lie with your last breath? Thus, when I give my word I punctuate it by saying, “I don’t make promises… I give guarantees. Amateurs make promises.”

Who can you give your word today? They need to know that there is SOMEONE they can believe in.

Thursday, August 5, 2010

10-Year Blessing Certificate

Weeks ago a good friend of mine, Nat Queen, had a wonderful reunion with our 8th Grade English teacher, Mrs. Schweitzer. They gave me a call from Washington, DC as they sat enjoying lunch. As I got the chance to thank Mrs. Schweitzer for coming into my life 42 years ago, I mentioned to her my belief that teachers get a 10-Year Blessing Certificate. 10 years after they come into a child’s life, that child will have a different appreciation for what they shared.

Not every child gets the chance to say thank you to the many who sacrificed through their character development. Not every teacher gets the chance to experience that euphoria of being thanked. Mrs. Schweitzer told me about a colleague who was recognized by a waitress, who lauded over how she remembered her from 4th Grade. The waitress got the chance to treat the teacher like the celebrity she deserved to be.

With the help of the internet, Nat had tracked and reconnected with Mrs. Schweitzer after all these years, because she was the teacher who recommended him for a scholarship through the ABC (A Better Chance) Program. ABC sends inner city students to private high school, local or boarding. The 4 years Nat spent away at Lawrenceville School made a difference in his life. He’s a Harvard graduate who has worked in the banking industry, traveling back and forth between New York City and London, England… and is now an Episcopal Lay Minister.

I am an ABC alum as well. My school, Cranwell School in Lenox, Massachusetts, sparked my interest in upgrading the literary skills I now hone to make me a better writer, speaker and communicator… in retrospect, serving me well through my Wall Street Journal career. I shall now begin my search for Georgina Land, my 8th Grade Science teacher who recommended me to the ABC Program while I was in the 9th Grade.

I also thank Mr. Alexander, Mrs. Monroe, Mr. Rush, Mrs. Nonenbacker, Mrs. Klein, Mr. Foote, Ms. Saroka, Mrs. Fisherman, Mr. Smith, Ms. Wilson, Ms. Prince, Mrs. McCauley, Ms. Caldwell, Mr. Ceroni, Mr. Block, Mr. Plasse, Fr. Keegan, Fr. Farrell, Fr. Grogan, Mr. Rooney, Mr. Hart, Ms. Goings, and I’ll probably think of other teachers after posting this blog.

Who are some you’d like to thank? Feel free to post reasons as well.

The ABC Program is alive and well, now operating out of New York, NY. To learn more about the program go to

Monday, August 2, 2010

Going to Leaving

Each person/situation brings us a different lesson about ourselves. God had it planned all along. Move on to the next level by seeing that as one door closes you get to look out the windows and see your new choices.

© July 2010


Today I decided to see myself Leaving
For so often I focus on where I’m Going.
In the process I was able to see much was behind me

Sometimes [Going]
I anticipated how difficult my climb would be
as I visually measured the imposing mountains
fearlessly daring me to come closer

Now [Leaving]
I see them minimize and disappear
The ‘dares’ transformed to immobilized stares
as they become jealous at my freedom

Smaller and smaller,
my challenges seem to hide and vanish
and rewind into the harmless options they are…
For I could always choose another way to Leave

Surely Going will be less of a challenge tomorrow
© July 2010 Sporty King

Please share any lessons you’re learning from what you’re going through… and how you’ll leave them behind.

Friday, July 30, 2010

Posting Guideline

Hey Subsribers

Thank you for following my blog, and sharing your smile at the screen, even when you did not comment. As you may have seen from a prior post, I am now establishing a rule that there will be no non-English language posts on the blog. This decision is based on the fact that I clicked on the "name" of a submitted comment. It took me to a porn site. That has not happened with every foreign signature post, however I institute this rule especially to remind you that the public nature of the internet enables anyone to 'find' a way to contact you.

You do not get a virus from opening an email. You get the virus from following the link inside the message. My recommendation is usually to not open mail from unknown sources. I even tell people I meet to be sure to put something in the subject line that indicates how we met...

As I posted to the comment that was sent, what he/she said was not offensive. Fortunately it was in English so I could make that determination. I have gone through the archives and deleted the body copy of any posts in the (apparent) Asian dialect used. Since no effort was made to sign on to follow this blog, I must believe that the intent was not in accordance with my goal.

Continue to enjoy the positive nature of this blog, as I'm sure they have.


Thursday, July 29, 2010

Greatness Approved

You wouldn’t believe what I’ve saved for last in my testimonious recount of my relocation to Charlotte… it’s my ability to blog as I have, for free.

When I moved my stuff down here in June, I was all prepared to get some paperwork caught up before returning to Chicago. However, when I clicked the switch on my computer it did not turn on. It made noise, but nothing appeared on the screen. Alas, there were no margaritas in sight, so I did what I could to fix the problem: I called my I.T. person, Jessel Bruce, in Chicago.

Back in Chicago, he opened up the computer and diagnosed a worn out motor (could my computer be related to my car?), yet he would be able to get the part and fix it. He did not have to go to Tennessee or Kentucky to do so. And when he returned the computer tower to me, he advised me that it was also wireless compatible… that I should see if I could get a signal without subscribing to an internet service.

HELLO… you’re reading from my free access to the internet… albeit the signal I receive is weak and I sometimes get cut off before I’m finished with whatever I’m doing. However this has helped me with my time management, resourcefulness, focus and relocation. It has saved me from being stuck online at a time where I need to be working more toward refining my message. When I get online I am more prepared and succinct in answering email, marketing and prospecting. My creativity works well in short places and under pressure. I believe this blog is but one example of that. And I also found the local library, got my library card and am now able to book time on their computers.

Wonderfully, this free access lifts the burden off of my budgetary rape from the car. Still, I won’t get hooked on it. In October I’ll subscribe and pay for high speed access.

My relocation to Charlotte actually began in 1984, when I visited as part of my sales territory while selling advertising at The Wall Street Journal. I decided, “I’m gonna live here one day….” I even gave my boss a proposal to let me open an office and work from Charlotte. “One day” is here, and God has approved my proposal. Nothing will stop me from enjoying the success ahead of me that I recognize from the success behind me.

How has your greatness been approved?

Wednesday, July 28, 2010

Whelmed… not over-whelmed

When you work for God you get a lot to do because you believe in his will. If you’re not being given a lot to do you can enjoy being that too.
© 2009

Wellllll… I didn’t tell you about my actual 2010 introduction to Charlotte…. I’ve actually been a resident since June 1, when I drove my stuff down from Chicago. Three friends (Barry Mixon, Mike Simmons and Tommie Hubbard) (former New Yorkers, with Mike & Tommie having grown up on the same block as me) in Chicago helped me load the 16’ truck on Sunday, May 30. Barry packed the truck like a professional, showing us how important it is to ‘layer’ the loading. I’m not gonna try to explain.

Unfortunately, neither of the 3 was in Charlotte to help me unload. So I unloaded for 2 days, in 5 shifts, beginning at 11am. I wasn’t worried about anyone helping. Just smiled and encouraged myself to enjoy the exercise. Still, I prayed that I get help with my mattress, as it was the only wobbly thing that I would not be able to load onto the hand-truck and ease down the steps. You half-guessed it… a guy showed up when I was half way down, and offered to assist. It was 5pm, and time to end Shift 2 because I had enough stuff in to get some rest. Barry must have known… he had positioned the mattress in the perfect spot on the truck. Wellllll… that’s not the story.

Thursday, June 3 I returned the truck to Budget Rentals. On Friday, June 4 it was time to pick up my rental car to drive back to Chicago on Saturday. I took the city bus to the airport Budget Car counter. After 90% of our process was complete the agent informed me that the system was denying me rental based on my credit score, and that I would have to dial the 800 number… which gave me nothing but automated prompts to contact them online and by snail mail.

Wellllll… there was no place for me to have a margarita, so I sat down and proceeded to call my bank. The agent informed me that there was nothing the bank could do; because there was nothing wrong with my account… it was my credit score. I thanked him for sharing his 16 year experience with me, yet informed him that I didn’t have many other options and wanted to ‘hear’ my bank. Ultimately my bank did tell me the same thing the agent told me.

Knowing that I had no intention of being stuck in Charlotte, I calmly asked the agent to give me other options. He finally came up with the idea that Hertz might rent, since they were the only agency that didn’t require an airline ticket from an out of state renter. He drove me to their lot.

While on line I weighed the pros & cons of being waited on by the rookie rental agent: would she skip a step, or follow the rule tighter than the experienced agent? She ended up needing the help from the experienced agent PLUS the shift supervisor (yikes!). The supervisor followed the rule tight… and handed me the keys to the car. I congratulated and blessed the rookie on her new career. It was good to see someone excited about learning.

When I left the lot I drove back to Budget and located the agent who had assisted me. I assured him that he had been a blessing to many people in the past that probably had not gotten the chance to thank him… so I wanted to take the time to do so. In fact, on behalf of those whom you’ve helped by doing your job… thank you.

How appreciated do you feel about the job you do? Do you feel over whelmed… or whelmed?

Tuesday, July 27, 2010


When speaking before an audience your focus must be on 'you' ... not the audience. How you deliver your message is key. And the focus on you does not exclude the audience... it adds value, in that as you reach you with the truth, whomever else you're supposed to reach, God will handle...
© May 2010

As I humbly soaked in the celebration party thrown for me in Chicago on June 24… I was blessed to deliver the following message. To quickly set the scene, picture that there was a sign posted as people entered, saying “Fair Well Sporty.” Thus I began by telling the audience that we had purposely spelled “FAIR” that way to create the message.

The F is for F.E.A.R. (Faith Eventually Attracts Resources). Stepping out on faith is far more than a cliché. People don't jump to support you, because they can't see your vision. They wonder why you would leave security to test God's will. Once they see that you are serious about your gift, they begin to support you. My move is a sign of how I have to comply with the Biblical principle that we are honored away from home and family...

A is for Angel, and is in the middle of my life belief that it's EASY (Expect Angels to Save You)... pray and get out of the way. We have to believe so strongly in what we're doing, because we 'do' know that we're sitting among angels who may take us down the path we need. Being who you are gives you access to that blessing. A radio personality from WGCI sang her original song before I spoke. It had something to do with being easy to love, etc... She rocked.

I is for God... I am! And it reminds us that we have to put ourselves first. You can't help anyone without helping yourself, and you can't help anyone who doesn't want your help. Take care of your physical, mental and spiritual well being, to be the biggest aid you can to share your gift with the world. I'm making this move as Joseph in Genesis... going forward to prepare a way. I empower audiences to look out for themselves... how could I not do the same for myself?

R is for R.I.S.K. (Recognition Is Success' Key)... when you know who you are, you take more chances, and you get more challenges. As you walk (move) toward God's will/destiny for you, obstacles MUST come in your way because you are taking on the blessing you were sent to. The Devil now has to step up his efforts to side track you. However, God just lets him create stumbles. Remember, Satan had to 'ask' for permission to attack JOB... and you. I don't give him credit for anything that happens in my life. Why would I give credit to someone who has to ask for permission? God creates the stumbles to prove I am following his trail.

Stay creative and keep moving forward in your business and life. Don't worry; you can't get rid of me just because of mileage. Stay focused on the outgrowths of your success, rather than concerning yourself with the fatalities. Remember, just like a game of chess, someone has to be sacrificed for the greater good. If you seek the good, I'm glad to be in position to help when/where I can.

Who have you reached lately, just by reaching/being you?

Thursday, July 22, 2010

Everybody's Got One...

There’s a book inside each of us. Whether we determine to (or deter from) writing it is the difference.
© July 2010

Thus, here I am writing more about the Plan…. On Tuesday, July 13, I went to get an oil change at Wal Mart. Afterwards they recommended I get a new battery and air filter some time in the near future. Having just come through my last testimony, I saw no reason to jump into another one, so I decided that the “near future” was immediately. Unfortunately they did not have my battery, so I went to Sam’s (all this free advertising!!!).

On Thursday, July 15, I drove to Atlanta for the weekend, to hang out with family and friends. Because I did, I didn’t do much driving while there. In fact I stayed with a married couple whom I had introduced to one another 25+ years ago. I’ve been brokering good deals for a long time (count your blessings)!!! Upon driving back on Sunday, July 19, I got and installed the air filter.

Wednesday, July 21 I went out to open the windows of the car and cool it out before heading out to do laundry. When I returned to the car (3 minutes later) it wouldn’t start… the windows wouldn’t go back up… nothing. After about 20 minutes a neighbor came by, and I asked for a jump. He turned out to be a native New Yorker… great conversation about our Yankees, etc. I drove to Sam’s for them to test the battery. They said they hoped it wasn’t the alternator. I hoped too. They tested. It was a bad battery… which had been made and brought from the manufacturer a month ago. They gave me a new battery, after testing it.

Did I mention that in the midst of all this I got a call from the Charlotte Urban League, whom I met with in April when I came down to find my apartment? I now have my first contract, and will be doing Life Skills training through them from September to December, two weeks a month. I also passed my driver’s license written exam, and will become an official southerner when I get my license in the mail next week

I had to write 2 friends from Chicago, whom I was scheduled to meet in Raleigh this weekend. Because of the testimonies, I had made the tough decision to remain budget conscious, and not make the trip. They wrote back, happily letting me know that they had cancelled due to an airfare increase. I’m looking forward to spending my first weekend in Charlotte. At least that’s my Plan….

Tuesday, July 20, 2010

Note to Readers...

Over the past several months I have received comments written in (apparent) Asian dialect. I have not posted them because I have no idea what they're saying. However... since I believe positive people read this message, I have decided to publish them.

My apologies if you are from abroad and have commented, then wondered why it was not posted. Is there a way you can let me know how you're reading the blog... and how I might be able to convert your comments to English?


Wednesday, July 14, 2010

The Plan

Challenges are God’s way of letting you know he’s got bigger plans for you. As you eclipse them you become more confident and believe you can handle the Plan. Then the Plan unfolds… sometimes making you wish you had enjoyed the challenge more. I’m excited to say that I have consistently gotten to the point where I don’t get that knot in my stomach when an obstacle pops up.

As I was relocating from Chicago to Charlotte on Tuesday, July 6… my car cut off (while driving) on the Interstate in Corbin, Kentucky. Since it was early evening, all the tow truck could do was drop my 1993 Toyota Camry at the mechanic for an overnight stay. I did my part toward helping fix the problem: I went and had a margarita.

Shortly after getting the word (on Wednesday) that my car’s motor was no good, and considering the cost in the option to replace or fix it… the electrical power went out in the area. That shut down 4 hotels, 1 gas station, 3 restaurants, 3 fast food restaurants, a movie theatre, and the phone lines. I sat and wrote, “My challenge is small in comparison. Somewhere, something else is making this AREA smaller…. Anger is not a good use of time.” Find a way to reconnect to the joy and beauty of being blessed enough to get bumped. I went and had a margarita.

Wednesday morning my high school roommate, Marvin (who lives in New Jersey) called me from Knoxville, Tennessee, where he was visiting his family. Knoxville is 85 miles from Corbin, KY. He came and picked me up that night. On Thursday his brother, Horace, used his connections to help me purchase a car at the auto auction. OK, not just a car… a 1998 Toyota Camry… for $1,500.

On Friday I got the radiator and windshield fixed, got a haircut, had a celebratory margarita, and played pool with Marvin and his 3 brothers. Saturday at 6:30am I headed back to Corbin to transfer my belongings from one Camry to the other, while the mechanic switched the wheels from the old to the new. I left him the car to sell for parts, and headed for Charlotte (once again). I’m here now awaiting the next challenge... (at least, that's my Plan....)

Meanwhile, no, I’m not promoting alcohol (nor working on a tequila sponsorship). I’m reminding you that operating within your limits is the best road to travel. When you get bumped from your path, don’t get angry or frustrated.

What do you do to activate your gift for overcoming challenges and reconnecting to your Plan?

Saturday, May 29, 2010

Learning in Economic Quicksand

When you know you’re a winner
you don’t always have to see the Finish Line…
you just have to know it’s up ahead.
© 2010

Learning in Economic Quicksand

Teachers… thank you for another great school year. Students get younger each year as you get older. As you experience the GIFT of aging, you the chance to get 1 more year out of touch… OR one closer to staying in tune. Continue to see them as children, not adults.

Rewind, and see them as 3rd graders, then go down to 2nd … and 1st with patience. Keep in touch with the patience you would give 1st – 3rd grade development….

Have a wonderful “Portions of Summer,” and know that you did your best. Rejuvenate, revive and resolve to come back and be even better, as you reach one student per day.
© May 2010

G.I.F.T. - Grow Immeasurable Faith Today

Monday, May 24, 2010

Travelling Testimony

Let me close this story out, before the month runs out… regarding my trip to L.A.

If you’ve been keeping up with the previous episodes about the bumped flights and lost luggage, you’ll see why I decided to take an earlier return flight to Chicago, than planned. My return flight was scheduled for 10:55pm Sunday to connect in Detroit and arrive in Chicago at 8:00am Monday morning… and I had a class to teach at 9:00am. [sidebar – if I don’t teach the class, I don’t get paid. The money I get for teaching the class pays for things like airline tickets and conference registrations… I digress]

I called on Saturday night to find out that there is an additional $50 fee for booking an earlier flight, yet they cannot guarantee your seat until you’re live at the airport. They gave me the potential flights that were unfilled, yet also stated that being there 2 hours early would be a good move. Sooooo, I made that good move on Sunday morning. Got to the airport. Went to the ticket machine and booked myself standby on a new flight.

Oops, the computer said to see the Reservation Agent for my ticket. The Agent said there’s no longer such a thing as ‘standby.’ I agreed. WE looked at what the computer spit out. I calmly agreed with him and wondered aloud about my options. His computer would not give him the help he needed to resolve this conflict. He stopped and asked 3 co-workers. They were stumped as well. He went back to talk to a person in a red jacket (I think they are the captains), and came back… the computer still wouldn’t cooperate. Another co-worker mildly suggested he give up. I calmly enjoyed his tenacity….

Bottom line: he spent 45 minutes with me… booked me on a flight… waived the $50 switch fee AND the $25 luggage fee based on “… what happened on [my] incoming flight…”

Point: when you are calm enough to respect people, they FIND a way to help you… and a means to justify their help.

I wished him and the others well, and gave each of them a different Passing Thoughts acronym.

The Master of Listening

The Master of Listening
... and Smiling